Jesus said to him,"Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and most important commandment. The second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets depend on these two commandments." Matthew 22:37-40
Think about what "as yourself" means and how that is the opposite of what your flesh desires. Forget about your neighbor and just focus on the other believers who are close to you. Let's start with them.